User blog:Beeg gummy star/roblox server connectivity

so i have a private server in roblox and i live in asia, and i have a friend who lives in america, usually when we play our pings have problem. Usually when i join 1st i get very good ping it goes as low as 62 but my friend's ping stays at 200-300, but if my friends join 1st my ping never goes below 210 and my friend has gooood ping but why?